Disappointed by my husband
Okay so my husband works in abroad and I was back home in Europe for the birth of our first baby. Due to some issues, he wasn’t able to come visit me and our baby and now 4 months later I’m finally with him and he’s finally enjoying his kid.
He’s a very caring and helpful person so honestly while away, I was relaxed when thinking about going back and not being home anymore with all the help.
The house is kinda a mess, like he did clean but nothing is organised or where it’s supposed to be. He knows I’m a clean freak yet he didn’t bother making sure cleaning wouldn’t be on my mind for a while. We’re out of alot of things and when I pointed it out he says « oh yeah I’m not good with cleaning supplies so I thought you can do the grocery list » and honestly this pisses me off because I already have to take care of our baby and she’s also latch on to me so I don’t get 3 mins to myself. Especially now that she’s away from what she was familiar with.
Everytime she’s asleep, he’s like « I’m gonna go gym » or « I’m gonna go sauna » and I told him that it’s not because she’s sleeping that he can just dip, he could choose to stay so then we could finally talk and relax together but it doesn’t seem to matter to him. Even now I was in the middle of unpacking, then she cried so I was putting her to sleep and he was like « okay good she’s sleeping so I’m quickly going sauna » and I was like bro the suitcase is all over the place, atleast help with that since I can’t move and he did. He unpacked a bit then got up and was like « okay now going sauna ». Then I was like fine just leave honestly I’m done and he was like « no no it’s fine I’ll stay and spend time with you » at this point I didn’t care and just wanted space so he’s off to sauna and I’m just sitting in the room with my daughter asleep in my arm and feeling sad.
I know I’m also sleep deprived and tired from the travel. I’m also sad because I don’t have the help I had back home so I’m keeping in mind that these things might affect my mood too but damn, why is he getting on my nerves all the time????