u/mzc303

Over the past couple of months I’ve finally started to see some good improvement in my baseline after a long period of feeling stuck.

But the past week my partner and I have been going through a really emotionally intense patch. We’re long distance, both under a lot of pressure, and several conversations have ended in both of us crying/shouting and becoming extremely dysregulated. We can’t seem to connect or get through to each other. Since then my symptoms have flared massively which scares me a lot.

I think what I’m struggling with most is the fear that emotional stress/conflict has somehow “undone” all the progress I’ve made. I know fear and hypervigilance probably make symptoms worse, but I’m finding it really hard not to catastrophise when I feel such a clear increase in symptoms after emotional upheaval.

My partner is my biggest support and it’s really hard when we have conflict because I feel really alone and terrified. Fundamentally we love each other so much and want to make it work, neither of us has done anything terribly wrong, we are just finding it hard to navigate long distance, my cfs and mental health struggles.

I guess I’m looking for reassurance that i haven’t undone my progress and also advice on how to go about navigating this relationship conflict particularly in relation to my symptoms. any kind of conflict feels so dangerous and i put a lot of pressure on things to be resolved quickly because i’m scared of worsening my state.

I would also love reccomendations of specific techniques that i could do right now when i’m feeling scared, symptomatic and dysregulated , thanks ❤️

Hiya, I am feeling a little overwhelmed with all of the different healing modalities that I could choose to spend my money on. At the moment my recovery strategy consists of breathwork, meditation, short somatic exercises, responding to symptoms with curiosity and compassion, and trying to create/find joy as much as I can. I feel like I have a good gist of what it takes to recover, and am relatively goof at sticking with routine, but I am also struggling a lot emotionally / with the life things that come along with having cfs, and other difficult relationships in my life, so I do feel in need of a helping hand.

I am paying for private talking therapy, but I'm not sure how helpful it actually feels. I tend to talk about things like how hard it is living with cfs, difficulties in relationships and friendships, childhood traumas, ect. But her style is pretty uninvolved, so it's mostly just me talking, sometimes feeling like I am trying to come up with things to say. I am finding our sessions sometimes tiring and dysregulating.

I am wondering if my money would be better spent elsewhere. I don't have enough money to pay for more than one of these things, so I guess my question would be that if you could choose one of the following, which is likely the most helpful? I would be open to some combination (e.g. do X for a month or to and then Y)

*a recovery program, *a mind/body coach, *finding a new therapist with a different approach, * trauma release exercises (TRE), * accupuncture & craniosacral therapy, ** something else??

Thanks :)