Was I wrong?
I'm from Zimbabwe. I'm 30 and still live with my parents, though i really want to leave. So my dad was diagnosed with diabetes some time ago and was hospitalized for 3 weeks. Bills were piling up and he needed a procedure done and my siblings and I decided to contribute for his bills. My sister who was earning better at the time contributed to the bigger chunk of the medical bills and I was flat broke at the time and asked for an advance at work to help her pay. I got 250 dollars in my advance to help her pay for the medical bill. Kindly note this was the second time I asked for an advance at work as 2 months before my dad got sick, his brother died and I had to pay for the funeral costs alongside my sister. So when my dad got sick I gave my sister 250 dollars. So in total I earn 1560 dollars and on a short term contract with an NGO but I had taken a loan 6 months before my dad ever got sick for 21 thousand dollars so I can buy some land that I can build my first house on in 3 years time (hopefully) before my contract expires. So the bank and the land developer deduct 712 dollars a month from my salary leaving me 848 dollars at least. So now my dad was said to now require an amputation and 3000 dollars surgery is needed. My sister took a loan and asked if we could all pay 300 dollars a month to pay off the loan. After paying the first 250 dollars I couldn't afford paying another 300 dollars because I needed to pay for my bank loan, my parents house's electricity bill for a 100 dollars and groceries for the family. I even offered to give my mom my car while i use combis and pay for the fuel for them to go for doctor visits as fuel is now expensive in Zimbabwe almost 260 dollars plus a month. I then told my sister I honestly can't afford the additional 300 dollars she was asking for and she asked that when she takes the 3000 dollar loan, can she put my car as collateral and I said no as I can't afford anymore debt and can't risk my assets like this anymore, I asked her to put her car as collateral and she said she can't because she hasn't done her change of ownership yet. She asked me again about putting my car for collateral and I said I can't, more debt would kill me, and explained my 20k debt to her. When she heard that she then posted in the family group that she and my brother contributed 300 dollars each to my dad's surgery and she wrote my name and said I contributed $0 and I was very upset by that statement. I can't ask for another advance at work, i can't afford another loan it will kill me and I'm 3 months behind on my funeral policy payments because of the piling costs and debt from my uncle's funeral, dad's bills and loan payments. My mother also scratched my car during the period i landed it to her. Fellow Redditors, Be honest and direct with your take on this issue please and correct me if I'm wrong for being upset. The bills keep piling up and I'm literally left with nothing every month and its draining me. Was I wrong for not giving her an additional 300 dollars after the first procedure, was I wrong to refuse to put my car as collateral for the loan, knowing I was 21 000 dollars in debt already? I love my dad but I feel like the financial stress was hurting me at the time and I had given him all I could at the time. I left the family group because i felt that what happened was a humiliation tactic and blocked my sister afterwards.