u/mountainjuliet

My husband and I are both from Montana (him born and raised, me moving here when I was little) he went into the military for awhile and got a good medical separation deal. He went back to school and got a job in his field up in kalispell. We were excited at first because it pays much better than the other cities do... except now were realizing why. I just want a good sized house to raise a family with some land for gardens and small animals. Why are yalls houses so expensive!? If we find a decent sized, or even just decently held up, house the location is horrendous but if we find decent land the house is literally falling apart but still too expensive to have money left over to fix up. We're expecting our first baby and the stress is quite literally tearing me apart. There have been maybe 3 houses we were really hopeful about and they got bought up literal HOURS after being listed! I check multiple times a day to see if theres anything new, but again, when there is, it's contingent so fast we dont even have a chance to set up a tour with our realtor. We're starting to wish he never accepted that job... kalispell is beautiful but its not worth this.

Why would people say something like this? Especially after my expressing my husband and I would like at least one of each someday.

Im expecting my first. My mother has bullied me my whole life with her "God given proficies". She for some reason has found it her life's mission to hurt me with these, including saying how I will have 3 boys and never any girls. I've saved a few things here and there for when I eventually do have kids, and every time it was something for a girl she'd tease me about how ill never have one.

Well expecting my first and everyone i know is guessing its a boy. And honestly it hurts. Especially since i found out it is a boy and im really struggling with gender disappointment. I havent told anyone its a boy, but I've had multiple comments now from people saying how they "just cant imagine me ever having a girl". I just don't understand why you would say something like that to someone, especially when they express they want both. It almost feels like they're saying i don't deserve a girl. Like a mini me in the world would be such a horrible thing.