u/metro_boulot_dodo11

Not diagnosed but searching up about hyperfixation a year after my long term relationship breakup of 5 years has bought me to this subreddit...and I should probably look into getting diagnosed because a lot of things point to this including loonnnng study sessions while I was in school to universities, short attention span and generally taking more time to understand something despite great academic record.

Anyway, I hyperfixate on issues a lot. When I have a problem, I stress and think about solutions until I am exhausted or see the issue through to the end. Last year I was trying to distract myself from the stress of work/exams by spending so much time on my hobbies. My ex partner and I would sit in a room and I would be focusing on something from morning to night without talking to him. This hyperfixation made me think I actually crave being by myself (red herring and I'm so stupid for thinking that way) and we broke up because I felt like I couldn't give him the affection and attention he deserves, but since the breakup I really miss him and realised I was just masking my worry with a distraction. Since then I tried to test it out more.

recently I needed a new job, and I spent all morning and night for 1 week straight applying for jobs, perfecting my interviewing skills while thinking if I was still in a relationship I would have yet again neglected my partner while I have my heads down on this task and can't share my attention to the relationship. This time the hyperfixation and stress of finding a new job was so bad I got burn out and thought a lot of bad things and cried.

I really dont want to repeat this for future relationships, anyone know how they dealt with hyperfixation on things/problems (luckily though I dont hyperfixate on people)? I have a strong urge to solve things in my life and not being able to let go a little bit once in a while has genuinely pushed people away because I am not present enough for them

I had my final interview for financial accountant looking after mainly CAPEX, and then final interview for management accountant for a SME, recently PE backed IT company.

No offers yet but the interviews so far leaves me feeling positive, which is promising because I am ready to leave audit for good, though I plan to just resign anyway next week even if I dont get offers because I am tired.

I am most worried about the learning curve at the start but honestly if I can get through audit I feel like I can get through it all.

What is it like, more interested in people's views about PE backed companies? I suppose more scrutiny over the packs to the Board, and less chill than your average management accountant role, but still better than audit?

I am about to have final round interview with PE backed company in industry, funded by BGF.

Lots of stories about relating to PE backed companies, but these are american comments mostly so I'm not sure if that's 100% reflective of UK ones. I will be making my move out of audit and really want industry experience, but also don't want to be jumping from audit to another hell

Im in big 4 audit and interviewed for a management accountant at a tech company that is small, recently PE backed and there is a finance manager who's been there for over 10 years and theyre hiring management accountant as the responsibility is growing, and will soon hire assistant accountant below the role im applying to

They also got a CFO recently. Now im sick of audit and want to do something new but in big 4 I like that theres people my age and I could talk to them about anything work or personal related, so this is a change as the only other person is the manager. In the interview she said she dont want to oversell the social aspect because its a small team. In my head I know that theres social life outside of work but we do spend so much time at work, and also its easy I guess to be like oh i'll get used to it but I dont have the benefit of hindsight yet and dont want to downplay this if it would genuinely make my life miserable.

Bright side is it is higher pay and she says the scope of work isnt much and im so ready to not experience audit anxiety again

Anyone made the move and found it fine?