u/meltness

We hired a night doula for our newborn and there's a few things that aren't sitting right with me.

We noticed she spends a long time out of the nursery while the baby is sleeping. We asked her to remain in the room as much as possible for room sharing/decrease sids. Last night she was out of the room (with the monitor) while the baby slept for 1.5 hours. I asked her about that and she claimed she was doing laundry. When I do laundry it takes a few minutes to turn over the load and a few minutes to fold the clothes as we do a load a day.

She also fully reclined on our reclining chair when holding the baby to soothe to sleep after a feeding. She has a blanket and the room is dark. This doesn't seem safe to me?

Overall I am wondering if these are red flags and I need to let her go? Or am I overreacting?

I just delivered my baby girl a few days ago and although she is eager to breastfeed, my nipples are being destroyed by her latch. It's very painful and my nipples come out roughed out and white. I'm putting all the lotion on but we are slipping into a cycle of more and more pain and raw nipples.

I point her nose up at the nipple and make sure her chin is pressed into the breast for as deep as latch as possible while flicking the nipple in. Her chin, shoulders and hip are aligned. I do mostly cross cradle.

Any ideas on how I can improve the latch? I'm worried that my nipples are going to be destroyed and I won't be able to breastfeed. I attached a picture of the state of my nipples.

https://photos.app.goo.gl/xaHSFznxHiDbDk2N7

Are these red flags or am I overreacting?