I’m not sure if I’m overthinking this or if my sister-in-law genuinely doesn’t like me.
To give some context, my husband and I had an arranged marriage, though we had actually known and spoken to each other for nearly three years before getting married. Early in our relationship, when things were still new, his sister, who lives abroad, came to meet me before she was due to travel again. By that point, my husband and I had already been talking for about a month or two.
During that meeting, she spoke quite negatively about her own brother. She mentioned things like him having multiple girlfriends in the past, being short-tempered, and other personal traits in a very unflattering way. She even advised me to think very carefully before making any decision. By then, I already liked him, which is why I had agreed to meet her in the first place. Still, my husband and I didn’t give too much weight to what was said, as I trusted my own judgment and instincts.
However, even after the wedding, there have been moments that make me question things. For example, during light teasing between my husband and me, I once made a sarcastic comment about him. She immediately responded by saying she had already warned me before the wedding and that I shouldn’t complain now. And every time she gets a chance, she keeps telling she wonders why i married him and says she did what nobody else would do, that is, talk about her own brother's negative.
On top of that, she doesn’t really maintain any direct relationship with me. She doesn’t call or text unless I reach out first, and even then the conversations are minimal. What feels a bit confusing is that her dynamic with my husband is completely different. She speaks to him regularly, calls him, and discusses things with him without any issue.
I don’t really know what to make of this. It’s not something I’m overly affected by, but I do find it a bit strange and wanted to see if I’m reading too much into it.