Any recs for therapists/support groups that aren't anti-trans?
Hey all!
My (23F) girlfriend (22F) is a detransitioner, and she has been having a terrible time trying to find support.
She's been to multiple gender therapists who spend entire sessions ranting about how people like her make life harder for trans people. And I think it's obvious how that doesn't help her -- she's not a TERF and she's not against trans people, she just needs to work through her own medical trauma (she medically transitioned as a child after years of religious and sexual abuse, which she disclosed to multiple medical providers who ignored her). She is so exhausted from having to make disclaimers about her political views every time she talks about her experiences.
But the alternative seems worse; all of the groups and resources directed at detransitioners are funded by Genspect and other right-wing groups that carry implicit messaging that people like her are "damaged". There is also a clear incentive within these groups to use the information provided by detransitioners as a weapon, and she doesn't want any part of that. We are both feeling so stuck. She needs help that nobody seems to be able to provide and I am heartbroken that people on both sides treat her as a cautionary tale instead of a human being.
All that being said, does anyone have any recommendations for a support group/therapist who is a) supportive of trans people and b) able to discuss the reality of detransition without minimizing my girlfriend's feelings about it?