u/maple-shaft

The frequency of sex is mostly irrelevant to me. It doesnt even matter if she happens to want it in the moment. I am not allowed to initiate. Its not a rule, just a fact of my marriage that has been true for 20 years. Endless counselors.

I can count on one hand the number of times I was in the mood and initiated sex. I could count the number of salt crystals in a box of Morton the times I have tried to initiate and been rejected.

The only thing that counseling helped with is that she stopped trying to make me feel like a shallow perverted fiend and just now goes to ick x10 when I try. A week later she initiates again.

I am just looking for others that know what this is.