My boners are… soft…
I’m almost 1.5 years on T, and I’ve never had a problem getting hard. It’s honestly one of my favorite things about being on t.
But within the past couple of weeks or so, my libido has been completely shot, and I can’t get hard no matter what I do (touching, porn, fantasizing, toys, anything)
Usually I’m constantly horny, and this was more or less true even before T. now, a whole day or two will go by and I don’t even have the urge to masturbate. And when I do, it’s so muted and the orgasms are also muted.
When I’m with my partner, that’s when I get the hardest and orgasm the hardest, but even with them I’m finding it difficult.
I’m trying not to freak out, but im lowkey freaking out. I touch myself and nothing happens. I don’t feel anything like being turned on (or very little) internally or externally.
I thought maybe it was the finasteride I’m on for hair loss, but when I researched I’m way past the timeframe where low libido sets in.
I’ve been super stressed lately, and It’s most likely because of that. But the physical manifestation of low libido now makes me feel like something is really wrong and I’ll never get my boners back or even feel horny. I know I’m probably spiraling, but this is just not normal for me.
Anyone else have this happen? How has stress affected your sex life? Were you able to feel normal again?
EDIT: took some time to reflect and I’ve had multiple life things happen in the last two weeks or so that have been super stressful (including noticing my hair thinning more 😒). I even forgot for a week or so I was clenching my jaw so hard that I was having trouble opening my mouth a little. So it’s probably stress. Thank you tho to everyone commenting it is making me feel better/more grounded 💖