I need advice!
I need advice on how to move forward. I’m a bridesmaid in a wedding, but the bride and I honestly haven’t been close friends in a long time. I think I was asked because she doesn’t really have many other close friends, so at this point I’ve mostly just been going through the motions.
This past weekend was her bridal shower. As a side note, I got married last fall, and my husband and I are TTC. When I walked in, the first thing her mom, who I haven’t seen or spoken to in probably 10 years, did was put her hand on my stomach and ask if I was pregnant. No “hi,” no congratulations on getting married, nothing. Just straight to that.
It completely ruined my weekend, and I haven’t stopped thinking about it since. The bride has no idea it happened. I’m struggling with whether I should say something or just let it go.
Edited:
Separately, the bride herself also has made comments that have sat poorly with me. After her bach weekend, when my husband came to pick me up from the airport, she said “okay now go get pregnant.” She has also made a pattern of smaller comments about my appearance — telling me I shouldn’t highlight my hair anymore, that I should keep my hair short, suggesting I should wear more makeup, and other similar unsolicited remarks about how I look.