I fulfilled my degree requirements but missed the deadline to apply for graduation in June. Now I have to until October convocation until i can officially graduate. Is there a faster way I can have my degree already so I can potentially get a job in the meantime?
I know this isn’t really related to bangladesh but since there’s many bengali’s here I thought i’d ask for advice here. Mods, plz let me know if this isn’t okay and i’ll take it down.
I’m in a really tough situation and don’t know how to handle it. I’m 23M from a Bengali immigrant Muslim family, and I had a daughter about 3 years ago, outside of wedlock with a christian girl, and I never told my dad (or his family). At first I was scared of his reaction (especially since this sorta thing is kinda taboo in our culture), and as time went on it just became harder and harder to say anything.
Our relationship has always been complicated, he wasn’t really present growing up and we only started truly reconnecting about 6 years ago after he got out of a bad marriage, and since then I visit him more and we’ve been building a better relationship and have so now, which honestly makes this even harder now.
He’s very successful, has high expectations of me, isn’t very religious (thankfully) but is traditional and pretty conservative, and has always told me to get financially stable first, then get married, then have kids, so this goes completely against what he wanted for me. He now has a new wife and two young kids not much older than my daughter, which adds another layer to everything.
I also don’t live near him, so the only way I can really tell him is either over the phone or when I visit him in another state, and I don’t know which is better or what kind of setting/time would be best. I feel like I can’t keep hiding this anymore and I want to tell him soon, but I’m honestly terrified and don’t know how to start, whether I should apologize first or just say it straight up, or how to handle it if he gets really angry. If anyone has advice on how to approach this, especially whether to do it in person vs phone and how to actually bring it up, and how to deal with the awkwardness that will come after, I’d really appreciate it. I know I should’ve told him earlier, I’m not trying to justify that, I just want to handle it the right way now.