AITAH for feeling like my husband and friends are being too involved in a game?
TLDR: me and my friends play games nightly and they all get super involved and I don’t and I feel like I’m being a dick because of it
Every night after work me (20F) and my husband (22M) play online games with our friends (23M and 20F) after work. It’s a normal thing, but they get so into it and feel so highly and it almost gives me the ick in a way. Not in the way that it’s overly deep but in ways that have me thinking “wow get over it I don’t care”
We play games like Marvel Rivals and Overwatch, in those games you have rolls (tank, healer, dps) that make up the game and structure, but say someone doesn’t play at least one of those rolls and it all can fall apart and it’s very common to then lose. You also have points you get and it upgrades your characters and gives you special looks and things for them
In the following I’m strictly talking about playing quick play
Every night we play, and it’s almost draining and not fun. We play and I’m trying to level up certain characters or just enjoying playing characters but if we aren’t winning they get soooooo mad. Like we are still talking and playing the game but it’s just them being irritated cause we aren’t winning for whatever reason
My issue is, is it that deep? I’ve played games for years so i understand the wanting to win and feeling irritated, but even then all those times were in a competitive setting. I feel like because of this I’m being a meanie pants since I’m not over here fuming with them but it’s also like I grew out of it?
Admittedly these people didn’t really grow up playing games so this is their first time but it’s the SAME thing every night “oh my god I’m about to get pissed off” “oh my hod that just pissed me off” “bro she’s so broken” “bro this is so stupid” “bro i need a new controller” “bro what is this team doing” “bro they suck” “im CARRYING what is happening right now”
Those are all exact words that my husband says every night when we get on the game. Every. Single. Night. Word for word.
And they all genuinely get so upset and basically can’t enjoy the game just cause we may be losing or they may be dying
I don’t know maybe I’m overreacting but it just seems not that deep to me? Like it’s the game, it’s how it works, stuff happens. But to them it’s like they’re the best ones alive and should literally never lose unless they’re fighting actual gods and it’s just like can we not just get on and have fun lol
And admittedly too when it gets like all of this I just get kinda quiet and be there and then my husband will usually say I’m being mean cause either I’m quiet and say something about the fact I’m not switching my character that I’m purposely on to up my points or are practicing with just cause they want to win every single game
It just seems weird. Honestly I do feel like I’m being mean or too insensitive but…. It’s just a game