AIO for sleeping on the couch
I feel insane, but I need opinions.
I (F31) decided to have a zero sugar soda tonight and my partner (M28) commented on how bad they are for you. I shrugged it off because I don’t have soda frequently and it’s my one “vice”, so whatever. It seemed like a very non-issue and we moved on.
Well, fast forward to bed time and I decide to talk to him about my struggles with my ED (eating disorder) lately. I’m mostly recovered, but still struggle with different aspects of the disorder at times.
Instead of acknowledging what I was attempting to share, he said, “well if you drink diet soda, it’s going to cause you to overeat calories.”. I told him that that was an insensitive thing to say and I was just trying to be vulnerable and ask for some reassurance with my issues and he wasn’t helping by commenting stuff like that.
He responded by saying that I was insensitive by not caring about his opinion on soda earlier (???). I said that me disagreeing with his opinion on soda is not the same thing as him making a shitty comment about my ED. He insisted it was and it started to devolve into an argument so I just told him we clearly weren’t understanding each other and should sleep on it and decided to go downstairs to sleep/watch a movie.
He thinks I’m being ridiculous by going downstairs and that I hurt his feelings first, but I just genuinely do not understand wtf happened and how the topics are related at all.
**for a bit more context, we’ve talked about diet soda previously. He thinks any amount is bad for you based on “the science of it”; however, he doesn’t have a problem with drinking regular soda himself.
***ETA***
I did apologize to him for disregarding his opinion and hurting his feelings. I said it’s okay for us to disagree about my consumption of soda, but simply didn’t appreciate his disregard for my *separate* personal concern and trying to conflate the two issues.