u/lebanese_soul

Salam

I am a sister in my early twenties (just to give some context). I grew up with many responsibilities within my family mainly because I am the eldest in a big family. So it is kinda that I helped raising my younger siblings, do most house chores and be try to be perfect so that the younger can learn from as my parents say in what I do, education, etc.

Now, I've reached a stage where I've realized that so many things I didn't do or enjoy and this lead me to approach marriage with the primary thought of leaving my family and these responsibilities. It is not I have any problem with my family (I have a good relation with them). But it is very tough for me to manage all of this. And it didn't work for me discussing this with my parents.

I've learnt about marriage and know what is required and the responsibilities ahead that come with it (I do know that I am mature enough for marriage). But my only issue is that I'm finding it hard for me to approach marriage with the pure intention of completing half of my Deen and for what our religion requires in it rather than approaching it for religion and at the same time as a way to leave all of what I've mentioned.

I'd appreciate if anyone who had a similar experience or who has an advice for my situation to share.

And thanks in advance

Salam

I am a sister in my early twenties (just to give some context). I grew up with many responsibilities within my family mainly because I am the eldest in a big family. So it is kinda that I helped raising my younger siblings, do most house chores and be try to be perfect so that the younger can learn from as my parents say in what I do, education, etc.

Now, I've reached a stage where I've realized that so many things I didn't do or enjoy and this lead me to approach marriage with the primary thought of leaving my family and these responsibilities. It is not I have any problem with my family (I have a good relation with them). But it is very tough for me to manage all of this. And it didn't work for me discussing this with my parents.

I've learnt about marriage and know what is required and the responsibilities ahead that come with it (I do know that I am mature enough for marriage). But my only issue is that I'm finding it hard for me to approach marriage with the pure intention of completing half of my Deen and for what our religion requires in it rather than approaching it for religion and at the same time as a way to leave all of what I've mentioned.

I'd appreciate if anyone who had a similar experience or who has an advice for my situation to share.

And thanks in advance

Salam, I recently got a proposal from a man with the same culture as me (lebanese). We're both in our early twenties. The problem is that which I find pretty weird is that he wants me to wear abaya covering even the face. His reasoning is that the face attracts and men's jealousy. I find what he's talking to be kinda absurd but at the same I fear refusing him mainly because I've refused many potentials before. What is the best to do and how to cut it with him respectfully? And how to look for a potential again?

Salam

How do you define a man's gheerah (jealousy) in marriage? How is it compared to a woman's jealousy? I've gotten mixed answers regarding this.