u/laylascott62

I am [F29], and I recently had a disagreement with my sister that has been sitting with me in an uneasy way.

A few weeks ago, she asked if I could watch her dog for a weekend while she went out of town. I agreed without much thought because I work from home and it did not seem like a burden. She dropped the dog off on a Friday evening with a bag of food and a short list of instructions.

By Saturday afternoon, it became clear that the dog needed far more attention than she had implied. He was restless, scratched at the door constantly, and had an accident inside despite being taken out several times. I sent her a message just to ask if this was normal, and she replied casually that he gets anxious and usually needs someone nearby most of the time.

That was not mentioned before. I ended up rearranging my entire weekend, canceling plans, and staying home to keep the dog calm. I did not complain during those two days because I had already agreed to help.

When she came back, I told her in a calm way that I wished she had been more upfront about how demanding it would be. She immediately became defensive and said I was overreacting and that it was only for a weekend. She also pointed out that I do not have children or pets, so I would not understand what is considered normal.

That comment bothered me more than the situation itself. It felt dismissive, like my time was less valuable. I told her that was unfair and that I would not agree to help again unless she was honest about what she needed. She got quiet after that and later told our parents that I made her feel guilty for asking for help.

Now there is this slight tension between us. I did draw a boundary. Part of me wonders if I should have just let it go since it was already over.

Am I the jerk for bringing it up?