My fiancé’s mom
Ever since I met my fiancé (me and him are long distance) his mom would constantly find reasons to touch and tickle him to get in my head so I started getting uncomfortable and when I first brought it up he acted like I was ridiculous for being jealous of “his mom” that she was “his mom” and everyone thought I was crazy but then when I told him I didn’t like her spanking him with bottles and tickle all over forcing long tight hugs he told her to stop and she wouldn’t she would try harder and he finally noticed it was weird and him and his dad had to go off on her for her to stop well when my fiancé came to my country for the first time his mom for make him call and text every day and would get mad and guilt trip him when he didn’t want to so he would have to say “I’m here to spend time with my gf” (we weren’t engaged yet) and she would guilt him and say he needs to come back because his dog misses him or he needs to call because of that and he would have to end the call quick so we could enjoy our time but we never could he was worrying to much about his parents feelings and how he would get scolded when he got back :( (yes he lives with them still and shouldn’t that’s a long story on Factitious Disorder Imposed on Another (FDIA) or Munchausen syndrome by proxy (MSBP)) well they started getting crazy upset because they couldn’t control his vacation with me and let me tell you about the rough start that had where he was 20 I was 17 and he already planned it with my parents but we decided to wait for him to give them a heads up the day before we got there so they couldn’t try manipulating or controlling him well when he told them they went off his dad said how he though he was proud of who my fiancé had become and how he doesn’t like how he’s been acting and was crazy stuff and his mom picked up his suitcase through more then half his stuff out and said “you won’t be needing this for only 3 weeks” we he had planned a month in a half to see if he really wanted to move here and spend time with me and she also called his EIA (that’s a long story) saying he was only staying 3 weeks which was a lie and I guess they assumed it would scare my fiancé into not going well anyways back to when he was here they got quiet for about a day in a half which wasn’t like them since they blew up about him and they called saying “surprise we are half way there to come pick (my fiancé up)” and he got in a huge fight saying no it’s not up to them then them saying they would get the police involved then him saying “go ahead they are gonna laugh when they find out you are trying to force a almost 21 one year old in the car” and then guilt tripping him with his dog again and so fast forward me staying at his house with them for 2 weeks (it was last minute since we had troubles with getting him here) well this is where my worries about her being sexually emotionally incest with him came to to proof so anyways we get in the car driving back to his place and his mom isn’t gaslighting him (here comes so of the money exploiting (that’s a whole other long story) my fiancé said “my card went missing and I need a new one” and she said “no you left it with the remember?” And he said “no I didn’t I specifically made sure I brought it and didn’t leave it with yall” and they were going back and forth for like 5 mins and btw I was on the FaceTime and I’m a witness he didn’t leave it with them what so ever it was quite the opposite trying to hide it from them so when he gave me a look of help and that I could inveigh I said “he never left it with you I was on the FaceTime with him when it happened” after that she went quiet and wasn’t trying to gaslight no more because she was busted since I was a witness and we get there and it’s just so awkward the whole time my fiancé tense because they keep making jokes and stuff and we go to a restaurant and I think his dad was trying because he knew my family loved Chinese food I don’t like it the most but I don’t have the heart to tell him so we went to this Asian food place and we sit down and my fiancés dad starts making sex jokes about me and my fiancé in the restaurant which was rude and embarrassing ngl and I look over and my fiancés mom was staring at me with the most demonic jealous look of jealousy and right when I looked at her she back down and looked back down and I guess she was trying to assert dominance with that stare or something which didn’t intimidate me I just looked at her with a look like “what is your problem? I’m confused.” Well anyways most the time I was there she wouldn’t give us privacy and would swing my fiancés bedroom door open as quickly as possible looking around for what I think is clothes like she was trying to see if me and my fiancé were doing anything acting the whole time like we weren’t allowed to be alone or intimate and she would give a look of fiery jealous rage and didn’t even like us holding hands or being cute together and we got called children by his dad for me and my fiancé tickling and laughing at each other having fun enjoying are time being happy together and right after the restaurant she one day decided to walk up between me and my fiancé where I was following right behind him like always and she forced herself behind him and in front of me and gave me a start like to make sure she got a rise out of me and she slapped my fiancé with her bare hand on his ahh and did it a couple times after he said no and stop she would just laugh in his face and it’s to sensitive for me and my fiancé to talk about since his mom has created a enmeshment relationship with him and I needed to vent because it’s a lot and sorry I’m all over I have adhd and this was last minute and I’ll probably think of more sorry if my grammar is completely not there I tried to write this fast lol and I don’t like typing on Reddit next time I’m writing this in notes first haha I wanted to know what other people thought because my fiancé and mom say I’m obsess with his parents and talk to much about them so I thought this was a better way of coping but should I have the right to still be messed up from all this because my fiancé acts like since his mom stops one thing she’s a whole new changed person and I can’t judge her off her past when I still am messed up from it plus so much other long stories on other subjects