u/kleosailor

My ex was arrested for CSA, he's being sentenced on the 14th. Then a second case will resume to trial.

That being said we have a custody case that says he gets to claim her. He hasn't filed taxes yet and I don't even know if he will get the chance to being in prison and all.

If I don't claim my daughter I owe $500 in federal taxes, but if I do claim her I get $2k back. Mind you I've had sole physical and legal custody for years and have been her sole provider.

I can't really afford to pay $500 in taxes and that $2k refund would help me put her in daycare when she's out of school for the summer so that I can still work.

I know legally he gets to claim her, but will there be any consequences if he does not claim her and I do?

Yesterday my daughter came home from school in tears and said she was threatened by her bully.

He said “tomorrow I’m going to kick your f*cking a*s.”

I’ve called the school, the bus company, used the school app to message her teacher and plan to spend the day sorting this out with the school in person.

Here is the email I got from the principal this morning:

Hi (my name)

Thank you for reaching out to our assistant principal and to Mrs. (Teacher). Mrs. (Teacher) forwarded your email to us, and I am glad she did. I am so sorry to hear that this threat was made. I will alert our playground staff to keep a close eye on these students in the morning before school and then we will work with the students as soon as possible to ensure safety. If you prefer, (daughter) can come directly to the office in the morning and wait there before class. I have a meeting before school, but can let our office staff know this could happen as well.

Again, thank you for letting us know.

Principal,

What I’m reading here is now my daughter is encouraged to miss her recess and sit in an office out of fear for her safety while her bully gets to continue to play on the playground INSTEAD of facing consequences for his actions and sitting in the office himself.

Should I even respond to this email or just say everything in person?

I would appreciate guidance on what to say so that I can fully express myself in a way that gets the result i want.

A permanent solution to this bullying problem.

I struggle to comprehensively speak my mind in heated moments. I’m so angry but I don’t want to say something out of anger that’s not even helpful to my daughter’s situation.