thinking about breaking up with my boyfriend, not sure how to go about it
me (18F) and my boyfriend (18M) have been dating for 10 months. i love him but we argue way too much, like at least once a week we have some sort of disagreement. he has changed a lot as a person since we first started dating but 10 months isn’t that long and we still have problems. not always, but like it is mostly with stuff he does. he always apologises and has changed in some ways but not enough, and i hold too much resentment towards him and hate how i act towards him because of it, even when he’s not doing anything wrong.
basically im like being mean to him unnecessarily at this point, i guess to get back at him for things he’s done to me in the past that i never truely forgave him for. it’s toxic for both of us.
anyway it’s both of our first relationships, so i’ve never known how to or had to experience a breakup. doesn’t help that i don’t want to do it at all, and we work together — this is a big part of why it will be so difficult to experience. i also wish i could stay friends with him even though that would be way too hard, but i just don’t even know how to go about this and i don’t really have any people in my life to talk to about it either.
someone please help me as to how to go about this. should i go talk with him somewhere and say something along the lines of “we argue too much in our relationship” and maybe propose that we take a break away from eachother to see if we feel happier? i don’t even know what to do so please give any advice as to how to approach this situation 😭