He works overnight and I’m leaving when he goes to work. He texts and sometimes calls throughout his shift. I know when I leave to block him on everything but do I text him that I left or just cut my phone off and not say a word? I would have to cut my phone off cause he will *69 me. He has done it before.
Editing to add: I’ve left before and he always begged me back and I always came back. I’m fleeing 12 hours away so that doesn’t happen again. Cause he knows exactly how to get me back.
Just trying to learn more about this because I’m fairly new to a narc relationship. Been together a year and a half. Been married 6 months. He has been clean a year with my help. Thought that was the problem. Refused to believe who he was. I don’t work. He works nights. Want to list a few things he does to get more info on what I’m dealing with.
- constantly wanting me to feed his ego
- told me yesterday morning when he got home from work our relationship was on thin ice and took ring off and I don’t contribute anything to this relationship cause for the first time since he started his new job 2 months ago, I didn’t greet him or ask him how work went. (He got off at 7 am and I was asleep when he got home) he Went to sleep and left me to sit with what he said. Woke up and acted like everything was normal. Even had sex. I didn’t want to ( I mean who would after being treated like that) but I told him one time I didn’t feel like it and he completely blew up at me so I just do it anyway.
Then put his ring back on and left for work and I’m still stuck on this morning and he acts like everything is normal. Even being nicer than normal.
- constantly reminding me how he works so much and I have it so easy
- lost my car a few months ago. The company he works for called us on the same day. I didn’t have a reliable ride since we would have been on different shifts so he told me not to worry about working. Now when he gets mad at me, he complains I’m not trying to help him and that All I care about is his money(mind you, we have been broke our whole relationship so him having money is new) I WANT to work but again no reliable ride. He has a car and keeps talking about him getting a new one and that I won’t need one if I’m choosing to stay at home.
- can’t make a mistake or he belittles me. No matter how many things I do right.
Those are just a few recent things. Or daily things. There are a lot more situations but this post would be a book if I listed them all.
I have a plan in place to leave this weekend. Leaving in middle of night while he is at work. Taking greyhound from Mississippi to Dallas. Keeping my phone even tho he pays for it. Not riding 12 hours on a greyhound without one. I just know how he is gonna make me look. Also he has only been clean a year and he has told me before that if I ever left him he would more than likely relapse but he wasn’t working then so maybe he won’t. I know I would be blamed for that.
I can’t be “loved like this forever”. I know if I don’t get out now I never will.
I am trying to leave my narcissistic husband. I have a plan in place. I’m just scared (not physically) to execute it. A part of me feels guilty. Like I know I need to leave while he is gone to work, but I feel guilty for leaving someone like that. Is that normal? Any tips or suggestions would be really helpful!