Worried that my children seem much more wild than the others we see out in the world
I have a 3.5 year old boy and a 1.5 year old girl, and they've both been home with me full-time since birth. I think I have reasonably high expectations for their behavior, I'm not a pushover. We have rules and there are real consequences for breaking them. But still, when I compare them to other kids (at the playground, the library, the grocery store) mine just seem to need so much *more* intervention. Particularly, constant reminders not to run completely wild.
And it's not just in my head. We tried preschool last fall and my son was kicked out in the second week for being too unruly. His pediatrician suggested we see a developmental specialist to look into various types of neurodiversity, but I want to wait until he's a little older before going down that path.
We were at the children's library today, and I saw so many other toddlers just politely following their moms around while I was literally chasing my children through the aisles.
I think this is mostly just inborn, but I'm wondering if other SAHPs struggle with this? I feel like kids in daycare basically have no choice but to learn how to be compliant and follow a schedule, and I wonder if having basically unlimited unstructured time means my kids are just behind on learning those skills. Has anyone else had a similar experience?