u/iyoteyoung

I have a friend who studied post grad medicine. He is PGY3 this year and got into radiology this year at a metro hospital in Melbourne. (Relevant because it’s a “desirable” location so should be “harder”) He’s not the only one - all other new program members are PGY3. I do acknowledge that they’re a small percentage of their graduating cohort so that’s not the case for everyone.

On the other hand at this same hospital a year 5 reg Ortho surgeon did 5 years unaccredited before getting on the program but that is surgery and she is a woman (if that means anything!) and she did undergrad so was only 35!

Every post on here says in the last 2-5 years (range varies) speciality training has become increasingly difficult to get into and they’re greatly they’re not in medical school now. Essentially being a consultant shouldn’t be an end goal and unaccredited positions will be forevermore etc.

I won’t even start on people saying the money is not what it used to be.

Is it oversupply of grads? Or the fact consultants are rarely 1.0 FTE and most leave the job by dying not retiring?

Is this sub just bias to hating med (because they’re in the thick of struggling to get training, doing the long hours, working away from home) or is it just not good at all?

EDIT: edited for grammar as I was getting roasted in the comments

I’ve been told over and over on here that the fees will eat into my measly amount I put away each month ($100). When I’m able to increase to $200 a month is that enough to justify the ETF fees?

And for those investing lower amounts such as $100-$200 a month would opening a vanguard be worth it or should I stick to some “pocket” version like raiz, pearler or commsec pocket?

I just started full time work 5 months ago and I’m building my emergency fund to 5K but once that is done I’ll begin investing the amount that was going to my emergency fund (10%) and put the old investment amount into emergency fund ($50/fn) into emergency fund (so that it’s still growing but slower!).

Live at home but may move out for 6 months as have an opportunity to rent friends house near cbd.

I want to do post grad med, but I also acknowledge it’s not just 4 years. It’ll be rewarding but with sacrifice and as a mature age student it’ll be the rest of my 20s where I’m a little restricted with what I can do (moving, travelling etc.)

In 23 (so 24 if I get in for next year). Currently I’m New grad allied health, employed for 6 months,
haven’t yet got gamsat results for march and if they’re above the minimum I’ll apply.

I just am not sure whether I should stay in this career I have no zest for in order to travel and work for a few years in the UK or Canada. That’ll take me to 27/28 but there’s no guarantee when I return I’ll get into med straight away!!

I also acknowledge I could change my mind and not do med as I find out more about myself which is okay.

I travelled quite a bit in undergrad about 6 weeks each year overseas. Now I’m working my desire to travel is none but I’m worried it’ll come back and I’ll feel like I wish I traveled more or got to experience living overseas before med.

As I’ve travelled a bit i don’t over romanticise it and it could be a bust - and the NHS is NO picnic! I’d be better off in hospo. Then I’d regret not starting med earlier.

I acknowledge you can travel in medicine (fellowship can be completed overseas) but I’ll be 35 with different priorities.

I also acknowledge people travel during med school (Europe every year) but I am NOT from an affluent background and the sacrifice I’ll have to make to be in med school is keeping my head above water paying rent and surviving an unpaid placement etc.

I really wish allied health had exchange (I know med doesn’t genuinely some schools have placements but not all!) because I think that would’ve fixed this itch once and for all!

I’ve seen people advise PGY3 can be taken off but that’s 6 years away for me (if I get into med that is). I don’t want to travel now but I worry at some point I will as I have many years of my 20s left!

Been feeling depressed about being single again. I’m only 23 but it’s bleak.

I asked my friends whether relationships made them happy and I found out a lot of them lacked self confidence beforehand or didn’t practise some basic hygiene (now encouraged by partner).

Other people didn’t go to therapy until forcibly drives.

I know my friends aren’t everyone in the world and we are relatively young but if they admit they found happiness and health in their relationships - aren’t I really doing in hard as a single?

I feel like a strong person so to speak as I’m getting up everyday and doing the same thing….

I’m no longer depressed about being single but just slightly annoyed that people can’t fathom taking care of them selves or self esteem unless they’re cuffed!

I’ve asked a few friends and the general consensus is…..the relationship has made them take better care of their health and actually take steps to make those appointments or see someone (physical and mental).

I thought we were all trying to be healthy😭 I just feel annoyed that I’m able to do this stuff alone. Like competence.

I know I’m just a bitter single

TL;DR why can’t most people function without being in a relationship

I’m once again struggling right now with being single. I’d worked through my issues and have come to understand a partner won’t make your life better, you need to have a good baseline and be content with life on your own etc.

I’d accepted right now I need to do that and learn to live as an adult alone, and make the most of Melbourne life! I also realised the wrong partner can ruin your life. But then I saw this reddit thread about moments that split your life into a “before” and “after” and a lot of people said meeting their husband/wife. Like people attributed their better mental health, better financial habits and overall lust for life to their partner. Some even said life was worth living.

So those of you with partners could you answer these questions:

I’m taking a survey, thanks for participating.

1. Would you say having a partner has made your life better (happier) or is more neutral.

2. Is there a “before” and “after” in your life like your life is split into two parts (like it would be following the death of a parent or another traumatic event)

3. Is it really convenient having someone to pick up half the mental load or not really?

4. Would you say your trajectory of success has changed? (I.e I guess if you live together you’d half expenses so save money. but if you don’t maybe they’re a financial whizz and explained how to invest/super or they stop you buying things lol OR they encouraged you to go for a promo at work). Or they made u go to therapy and get on lexapro lol. Or maybe they’d made you more studious or they do flash cards with you.

5. Do you fear never being single again? Or what do you miss about it/wish you did?

6. Do you really think you guys will be together forever or is that something people just say? How do the statistics not give you anxiety?

TL;DR people whose life is better with a partner how so? Is it really life on easy mode…..especially in this economy?

I’m once again struggling right now with being single. It’s such a big part of Australian culture, after a certain age it’s what you should be doing!

I’d worked through my issues and have come to understand a partner won’t make your life better, you need to have a good baseline and be content with life on your own etc.

I’d accepted right now I need to do that and learn to live as an adult alone. I also realised the wrong partner can ruin your life. But then I saw this reddit thread about moments that split your life into a “before” and “after” and a lot of people said meeting their husband/wife. Like people attributed their better mental health, better financial habits and overall lust for life to their partner. Some even said life was worth living.

So those of you with partners could you answer these questions:

I’m taking a survey, thanks for participating.

1. Would you say having a partner has made your life better (happier) or is more neutral.

2. Is there a “before” and “after” in your life like your life is split into two parts (like it would be following the death of a parent or another traumatic event)

3. Is it really convenient having someone to pick up half the mental load or not really?

4. Would you say your trajectory of success has changed? (I.e I guess if you live together you’d half expenses so save money. but if you don’t maybe they’re a financial whizz and explained how to invest/super or they stop you buying things lol OR they encouraged you to go for a promo at work). Or they made u go to therapy and get on lexapro lol. Or maybe they’d made you more studious or they do flash cards with you.

5. Do you fear never being single again? Or what do you miss about it/wish you did?

6. Do you really think you guys will be together forever or is that something people just say? How do the statistics not give you anxiety?

TL;DR people whose life is better with a partner how so? Is it really life on easy mode…..especially in this economy?

Every-time I’m on here it’s us vs them. People who went to far one way and only had fun. People who never lived at all. And people who live life a little bit wanna prep for the future.

Like do you love someone? Have hobbies? Goals for retirement? Great self esteem? Or is is all money money money.

Like would you trade it all for other “riches” and if so what?

(Riches include seeing the world, living abroad, spending more time with (now) deceased parents, investing time in hobbies, saying yes to more things that seemed like wasting money) etc etc