u/itchytoenail7184

Guys I’ve been kind of concerned. Basically I had an early April period that ended around 4/12 (started 4/6 and was a few days late but I was traveling to Europe at the time). Things were normal for the next 10-11 days, until I started getting pink discharge when I’d wipe. I thought this was normal ovulation spotting, but the issue is the spotting wouldn’t stop, and actually kept going until it became a full blown period on 4/27, which is about a week earlier than expected since my cycles tend to be 25-30 days. I took a pregnancy test during that time too, and it was negative. I had a regular period, and it ended 5/3. But even up to now on 5/7 (so 4 days after my period ended), I’m having pink discharge or spotting from time to time when I use the bathroom. So basically I’ve been bleeding in some capacity since 4/23. What’s going on? I’m really worried, and this def a deviation from how my body behaves. I went to the OBGYN but they just think it’s stress/recent travel, prescribed me tranexamic acid and sent me on my way. I have had a copper IUD (since 2023) and I am a ‘96 baby if that matters.

Guys I’ve been kind of concerned. Basically I had an early April period that ended around 4/12 (started 4/6 and was a few days late but I was traveling to Europe at the time). Things were normal for the next 10-11 days, until I started getting pink discharge when I’d wipe. I thought this was normal ovulation spotting, but the issue is the spotting wouldn’t stop, and actually kept going until it became a full blown period on 4/27, which is about a week earlier than expected since my cycles tend to be 25-30 days. I took a pregnancy test during that time too, and it was negative. I had a regular period, and it ended 5/3. But even up to now on 5/7 (so 4 days after my period ended), I’m having pink discharge or spotting from time to time when I use the bathroom. So basically I’ve been bleeding in some capacity since 4/23. What’s going on? I’m really worried, and this def a deviation from how my body behaves. I went to the OBGYN but they just think it’s stress/recent travel, prescribed me tranexamic acid and sent me on my way. I have had a copper IUD (since 2023) and I am a ‘96 baby if that matters.

I am 30, and I came across a video where a woman in her 40s talked about how she’s only now getting to a point where she’s not *always* getting “pretty privilege”, and how she’s actually able to turn it “on and off” at will (based on hair, makeup, clothes). Whereas it was constant in her 20s and 30s. And I couldn’t help but think…how that was *never* the case for me? And even when I am all dressed up, I still don’t necessarily get it.

This was true when I was 21 and 137 lbs at 5’7, and it’s still true now at 30 at 160 lbs. Like I’ll get it here and there, but I see how other young women around the 20s/30s age ranges are treated versus me, and I wonder what they have that I don’t. Like I will literally be talking to male coworkers, and they’ll avoid eye contact with me while having a conversation, seem super disinterested in engaging with me, and even if we’re walking together in our office and having a full-on convo and we’re walking through doors, they’ll literally wait for me to open it for them. And I get doors slammed in my face by stranger and somewhat-acquainted men. And then I’ve had so many experiences where my friend and I will meet a guy (and he’s not even “on the radar” for me as a potential boyfriend for several reasons), but he’s so attentive towards my friend and totally ignores me. Or even recently I was in a workout class with my friend, and I noticed when we (everyone in the class) were putting away equipment, there was this one guy who, if I crossed paths with him, he’d kind of just “cut me off” and try to walk past me, whereas with my friend he was all chivalrous and would let her go first. It’s these little things that get to me.

Can someone who gets pretty privilege explain how you do it? I’ve tried being skinny, presenting myself well, being young, being older, etc but something about me screams “invisible woman that barely registers as being worthy of respect”. My face doesn’t have any deformities, I have thick long hair, no signs of aging, and facially I don’t think I’m worse off than the average woman who does get this type of treatment. So what is it? And it’s not even about getting sexual/romantic attention. I have always been a bit curvier, and I do experience these things more vividly when with size 0/2 white, white-passing-racially-ambiguous type of women, or East Asian so maybe that’s it? I just wanna be treated like…not invisible, you know? So how can I do that?