Unplanned pregnancy after failed SMBC IVF
Hey everyone 👋
I'm hoping this post is allowed as I'm struggling to know where to turn for advice and support.
I unexpectedly got pregnant without IVF after 3 years of womb surgeries, 4 retrievals and 1 failed FET as a SMBC.
The issue? It was unplanned with a very new partner. We weren't careful as I was told it would be really difficult for me to fall pregnant without medical assistance so I'm genuinely in shock. I have diminished ovarian reserve and also uterine infertility.
My partner doesn't want the baby, wants me to terminate and I'm very early (just 6 weeks along, so know it might not progress anyway). My financial/work situation isn't stable due to IVF and I had started to accept the idea of being childfree. Literally going through redundancy right now.
I totally understand all the logical reasons now is not a good time for a baby with a guy I hardly know. But I also can't imagine the lifelong heartbreak of terminating a miracle pregnancy after going through so much 💔 I'm 35yo so understand this might not happen for me again.
But at the same time I don't want to unfairly trap someone (or myself) into a lifelong coparenting relationship after just a few months of knowing each other, I feel guilty about his wants and needs, and want my child to be wanted if this pregnancy progresses.
Please weigh in your thoughts ❤️