u/indoxiecated

I M/42 and my wife F/33 have been together for 9 years, married for 2. We are very open and communicative and we had the kids talk early on and concluded the we were 50/50 on the idea. Even though theres enormous pressure from family. We agreed to revisit it when she reached 34-35. That time is pretty much now.

Everyone’s situation is different, here is ours. We both have stable careers, reasonable incomes (which only happened within the last 5 years), slightly above check to check so there is some cash to play with. Her job is extremely demanding, mine is more flexible. We have a new house that we absolutely love with plenty of space. We are lightly renovating making it more “us”, most of our extra cash is going to that. She has some student loan debt, not sure exactly how much since our finances are separate. I have no debt. On paper, it’s a rather positive scenario for kids.

My question to all of the couples is: what made you decide to, or not to have kids? We are very plan oriented and we tried to make Pros and Cons list, but it was almost all Cons.

Lack of support system (no family to help us if we need it, her parents live out of state, mine are deceased) extremely expensive, time, physical and mental drain, actual physical changes (we’re both trying to get and stay in shape), major lifestyle changes or giving up on hobbies altogether, the inevitability that our kids will hate us for years at some point, schools and influences are terrible here, private school is not an option, etc. There wasn’t a lot of Pros other than those cute or rewarding moments.

One of our friends with kids are sort of pressuring us too, but their kids are terrible so that doesn’t help. Other parents have said while they obviously love their kids, they very much envy the free time and money we have. Other friends have dreamed about being a parent, so they are biased. And some are simply saying “just do it”, you’ll figure it out, which to us is the worst advice ever. We can’t fathom partaking in this life altering scenario on a “you’ll figure it out” plan.

So tell me, what tipped you and your partner over the fence? Which side did you land on?

I currently have a Line 6 Spider IV 2x12. I know, not great. Anything would be better. I play, pop punk, and alternative metal mostly. I’m searching for those deep low and quality high tones that I just can’t get from the Line 6. I’m mostly jamming with the intention of gigs sometime in the future.

I’m looking at the Boss Katana 100 Gen 3 2x12 and the Peavey Vyper X3. Any recommendations on these two, or even something else? Which foot switches work well with these? I read something about the new Boss GA-FC EX not being fully compatible with the Boss Katana. Thanks everyone.

I have an Avery satin black full wrap. The problem is the slightest brush against it leaves a scratch. I watched a woman drag her purse all the way down the side trying to get into her car in a parking garage. Four panel scratch in an instant. Unfortunately, I can’t always park far away. I’ve been hit and run twice and there’s a blemish on every side panel. Just seems like my car is a magnet.

But the wrap looks amazing. I don’t wanna give it up. I know I can’t do much about dents, but are there any other brands that are more durable with surface scratches?