How do I improve myself?
I don't know if I am in the right place to ask this, but to give you context, I have been talking to this girl for almost 8 months. We had no clear label but we have already exchanged stories, secrets, and other emotional stuffs like that. During the first months, we were actually doing well. However, we've been dealing with more misunderstandings lately and I was usually the cause of these. The arguments happened because of my lack of sensitivity and the tendency to make jokes or say something rashly without thinking. I promised to her that I will really try to work on it, but there are really times that I fail to keep it in mind. And right now, we are still in bad terms because of the same exact reason. I really do want to change not just because I love her and that I really want for us to work out, but also because I don't want to hurt more people around me. Right now, what I've been practicing is that to try pausing before saying something. Also, I've also realized that I was being too intense with her in a sense that I just blabbed anything that I feel like saying to her, whether it's something sweet, funny, or something that could potentially hurt her feelings. I am seeing this as something I really need to work out with. However, aside from these, I really need an advice. What can be your advice with regards to how I can REALLY start working on it?