hi my boyfriends birthday is coming up and we’re looking for a spot to go to dinner with his friends. we’re thinking like a brewery or sports bar vibe but we have some friends who aren’t 21 and want to include them. does anyone have any recs?
so for some context me (20f) and my best friend (21f) met in college and have been friends for a few years and even live together now. we’ve had arguments in the past but nothing that wasn’t solved the same day after a conversation. i’m not sure if this is relevant but i’ve been having one of the worst weeks of my life. i broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years, am not on speaking terms with my parent currently, and had to quit my job. so basically things have been very hard but im trying to be normal about it if that makes sense.
on to the reason im mad. i have a friend (20m) from high school that goes to the same college as as me and one of our other friends (21m) drove down yesterday so we could hang out. we ended up at the same party as my best friend, our other roommate (20f), and her boyfriend (20m). we got separated at the party and then my other roommate found me and said they were going somewhere else if we wanted to come. so we left and after we got outside my best friend was like actually i’m just gonna go home my shirt is stained and i don’t wanna walk around like that. i then found out that apparently someone spilled their drink on her and our other roommate. my roommate’s boyfriend offered to give her his shirt because he had a tank top on underneath. she said no so i suggested we get food and go back to my friends house instead. then my best friend started cussing at me and i said woah dude what’s your problem i haven’t done anything to you. she apologized really quick and agreed to go back to my friends house with us.
then we started walking and me and her were in the back of the group and she asked if i was mad at her and i very quietly, so no one else could hear, was like no but you were doing this to me last night too when some random guy called me ugly and fat and freak but then she started crying at getting mad at me over it. and then she stopped and was like you know what no i’m just going home and went to call her uber. i asked her to come hang out with us still and she insisted on going home so i said okay. and then she started screaming at me and calling me all kinds of names so i didnt respond and walked away. she yelled after me and was like yeah walk away *my name* you f*cking b*tch. i ended up yelling back and said what the f*ck is wrong with you. she kept screaming at me as i was walking away and called me a b*tch and a c*nt.
my other roommate and her boyfriend followed me saying they normally wouldn’t get in the middle but what she did was not okay and i did nothing wrong. my best friend went home shortly after and i haven’t seen her since. she texted our roommate apologizin immediately after though and i didn’t hear from her until this morning when she sent me “hey I’m gonna be out at work and some senior things for my sorority all day. I don’t want you to think I’m avoiding you. I definitely want to talk in person later about what happened but for now I just want to say I love you and you’re my best friend.” i responded and basically told her i was really upset and need some time, to which she responded that she was upset with what i did too. my other roommate talked to me today and told me my best friend and her spoke and my best friend has no idea why im upset and didn’t say why she’s mad at me.
i don’t really know what im supposed to do now or where to go from here.
so for some context me (20f) and my best friend (21f) met in college and have been friends for a few years and even live together now. we’ve had arguments in the past but nothing that wasn’t solved the same day after a conversation. i’m not sure if this is relevant but i’ve been having one of the worst weeks of my life. i broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years, am not on speaking terms with my parent currently, and had to quit my job. so basically things have been very hard but im trying to be normal about it if that makes sense.
on to the reason im mad. i have a friend (20m) from high school that goes to the same college as as me and one of our other friends (21m) drove down yesterday so we could hang out. we ended up at the same party as my best friend, our other roommate (20f), and her boyfriend (20m). we got separated at the party and then my other roommate found me and said they were going somewhere else if we wanted to come. so we left and after we got outside my best friend was like actually i’m just gonna go home my shirt is stained and i don’t wanna walk around like that. i then found out that apparently someone spilled their drink on her and our other roommate. my roommate’s boyfriend offered to give her his shirt because he had a tank top on underneath. she said no so i suggested we get food and go back to my friends house instead. then my best friend started cussing at me and i said woah dude what’s your problem i haven’t done anything to you. she apologized really quick and agreed to go back to my friends house with us.
then we started walking and me and her were in the back of the group and she asked if i was mad at her and i very quietly, so no one else could hear, was like no but you were doing this to me last night too when some random guy called me ugly and fat and freak but then she started crying at getting mad at me over it. and then she stopped and was like you know what no i’m just going home and went to call her uber. i asked her to come hang out with us still and she insisted on going home so i said okay. and then she started screaming at me and calling me all kinds of names so i didnt respond and walked away. she yelled after me and was like yeah walk away *my name* you f*cking b*tch. i ended up yelling back and said what the f*ck is wrong with you. she kept screaming at me as i was walking away and called me a b*tch and a c*nt.
my other roommate and her boyfriend followed me saying they normally wouldn’t get in the middle but what she did was not okay and i did nothing wrong. my best friend went home shortly after and i haven’t seen her since. she texted our roommate apologizin immediately after though and i didn’t hear from her until this morning when she sent me “hey I’m gonna be out at work and some senior things for my sorority all day. I don’t want you to think I’m avoiding you. I definitely want to talk in person later about what happened but for now I just want to say I love you and you’re my best friend”
i’m upset because she literally always has an issue, even more so when she’s drunk. even this past week when objectively i’ve been having a very hard time it’s still been all about her. i’ve also never done anything remotely similar to that and especially not in public. even when she asked if i was mad i made sure we were away from people and responded quietly so no one else could hear me.
so where do i go from here?