Flirting?
I (M37) have been working with someone (F51) for almost 4 years. She’s an extremely friendly and kind person naturally so I’m really confused and hoping to get some advice (I know that’s dangerous and borderline stupid coming to the Internet, but I’m kinda at a loss and don’t have anyone to talk to). For background, I am single and have been the entire time I have worked at this job except for a few months last year. I’m a single father (I have my son full time). I’m definitely overweight (about 280-290 lbs) but I’m decent looking otherwise. She’s very young looking, if anyone saw her and didn’t know her age and tried to guess they would guess late 30’s maybe early 40’s. She is married and has been for 31 years. They’re both Hispanic. They have 2 boys but both are adults and out of the home (one is 30 and the other is 20’s i don’t remember exact age) Her husband is older (early or mid 60’s I forget). He has a few diseases that prohibit him from working, so she has always had to be the one to work. To also complicate things she’s also a Christian and attends church (to my understanding anyway) when she can (our work schedules are all over the place and we work most weekends). We work in a fairly technical job, it’s sales for a few different services (I’m not going to be specific and will intentionally be somewhat vague to protect myself and her). In the time I have worked for the company she has constantly struggled with the technical side of the job and often needs help. We work in a small office with about 5-6 people total (depending on staffing levels as it’s a job with a high attrition rate due to the chaotic schedule, dealing with the public and the technical side). When she needs help if I am working that day too she will almost always come to me for help (even if a manager is there). Many times when she comes to me she’s needing my help with a device or she’s asking about how to do something in our systems or about a policy. When she approaches me she oven gets extremely close to my side and I find her pressing her breast into my arm or back (I’m about 5’10” and she’s much shorter, about 5’0”). To be fair she is rather large chested (probably DD or even DDD) so I know sometimes it’s an accident but I just feel that it might be happening too often to be purely accidental. She does not seem to do this to my other coworkers (male or female). Additionally we do often end up working alone in the evenings and when we do there has been several occasions (including just a few days ago) when she has brought up a few stories about and her habit of being a somewhat nudist at home and about her high libido (but she has mentioned a couple times how her husband can’t keep up because of his disability, understanding IMO). Again I don’t think she is having these conversations with my other coworkers. I was offered a promotion last month to relocate and manage another location across my state (larger state this location is a full days drive away). They needed time to find a replacement for me here and are working with me as well to allow my son to finish school here so I’m not starting the new position until June 1st. I feel like since the announcement for my promotion she has kicked up being even nicer to me, the coming to me for help and has mentioned several times how much she will miss me and have to call me to get help or talk. I’m not a dunce but I’m just confused where her mindset might be. It kinda came to a head today. She told me that I was her favorite and she feels safe with me. I do also genuinely enjoy her company and the attention she gives me. I’ve never touched her nor do I feel like we have done anything inappropriate with regard to both work and her marriage (which is important to me because my ex cheated on me constantly, without my knowledge for years, so I cannot stand cheating). I know her and her husband have had some marriage issues and even separated at one point for some time. From what I can tell he’s pretty controlling and not very understanding with her. I did joke when they split for a short time once I joked she should go find a younger “boy-toy” because she was talking about how she had a high libido and he didn’t/couldnt. She did Say no. I know she loves her husband and only has been with him and no one since they got together over 30 years ago. I also know his health issues have been getting worse. I just don’t want to get in trouble or get her in trouble with HR or her husband. If you made it this far, you’re a saint. Sorry for the rambling. Any advice is appreciated. Happy to clarify any questions/concerns.