u/holaquequiere

Mine would be when we were driving (she was driver) and she straight up zoned out hard on the road and almost got us T-boned by a passing car by almost a hair. I screamed and was rattled for the rest of the ride because at the speed that car was going, we would have been done and because I just saw her zone out behind the wheel. I also can’t drive medically so there was no switching drivers. Tell me why she got angry I got upset😭 She kept asking for reassurance that I didn’t hate her forever and even parked the car for an “are we good” conversation. Like she straight up was upset that I got scared that we were almost T-boned and she somehow managed to make me the bad guy in that scenario

-about the way we were treated and what we were put through! Before I realized how screwed the situation was and how I needed to end the friendship, something that kept me stuck was the pro-mental health talk and the “have empathy, she’s sick” feedback I’d receive whenever I’d try reaching out about this issue. I’m a highly empathetic person and don’t wish to do harm to anyone, I stayed longer than I should have because I didn’t want to be the person that hurt somebody. I appeased, apologized, initiated reconciliation etc everytime. At what point does empathy end and accountability begin? Yes its not their fault that they’re sick but its not ours either. I’m so glad I found this sub