u/helge-a

I live in a large space with 4 others. We generally get along quite well and have the same level of hygiene but one individual always has a comment to share about how I do things/things I forgot and it gets the point where I ask myself what else I can possibly do to make it better.

This is not an excuse but purely information: I am very affected by ADHD. My memory is dogshit and I am extremely forgetful. In that sense, this roommate has spoken to me about a few things that I have forgotten. When I did my weekly chores, she wasn’t happy with how not thorough it was. I apologized and make sure to slow down to get it right. Another time, I forgot a few things on the checklist and I saw she used her finger to swab the table to see if there is dust and was upset about that. We argued a bit but I apologized and said I’ll just start following a strict checklist and if I am unsure if I did a good job, I’ll ask for another pair of eyes. Just now, she sent a text in the groupchat asking “Hey, who regularly leaves a pot on the stove after cooking?” and I said “Ah yeah, bad habit. I’ll be sure to put it away after use.”I tend to clean it and set it back on the stove.

It’s so important to me that I am not the slob and the nuisance and yet I just await another way I won’t meet her expectations. Nobody else gets talked to but in that sense, she is the single person that comments about such things. I could name 5 things right now that I’ve seen her do that I’m not a fan of (in and outside of our kitchen) and I’ve never mentioned them. When I see it, I just don’t care enough to mention it and I clean it up.

I busted my butt for 6 months trying to find the right medical program for me in Germany and applied like crazy. I found a good program and felt like I was in the clear. My priority was staying out of the US and being able to build my life here where I am so happy. I’m sad to say that after 6 months, I realize my program is not for me. In some way or another, I don’t find the material I’m learning particularly invigorating and inspiring and I’m also just not good at it. I spend hours studying and reviewing and still *just* pass the tests. It worries me since I’m already a poor test-taker so this shows me what awaits at the end of the program for the final exams. Part of me is hoping that it will all eventually become clearer and the pieces will come together to form a clear picture and I will feel like a competent practitioner near the end. I’m downplaying what feels like a horrifying commitment to something I know I’m not naturally, intuitively good at. 😅 I love my friends, lifestyle, and life here more than I dislike the discomfort of pursuing a field that isn’t fit for me… if I had to leave, I would be devastated.

I am from the US and they have a lot of "haunted" hotels, sanitariums, old buildings that attract tourists or visitors due to people reporting seeing and hearing stuff. Is there anything similar to that in Hamburg? Spooky places?

Disclaimer: I am just looking for some fun attractions. If your only reason to comment is to tell me such things are useless or stupid and not real, it is not welcome. This is just my hobby. I like spooky stuff.