Some help before I get back into dating
Hello everyone! So I've been out of the dating scene for a while mostly because I've been working on myself. I want to but I'm not quite ready to jump into dating again. First I want to look at some things about myself that could be affecting what I attract or why I struggle to find a good partner.
Recently I had started talking to an old friend and it ended up being a situation where I was quickly ghosted. I'm talking I was ghosted within the first week. They came back but was flaky so I cut that off. I started thinking about my dating history and how this situation was far from the first time this happened. Throughout the years whether I was looking for a LTR or something casual, I would end up in these situationships or I get ghosted. The two LTR I was in, one just ghosted me after a year and the other I was with for 5 years and found out they had been cheating on me almost the entire 5 years. So either I can't pick them or I am really scaring people off.
So I don't really know where to start with figuring out if there are issues with me and dating. I've asked friends to give me their honest opinions but I don't get much from that. I've always been pretty tough on myself and I used to think I was a bitchy person but I'm actually very sweet and giving. I'm always offering help because I like being of service to people. I've thought about things like I don't chase, I prefer to show my interest with actions like initiating plans, it takes time for me to trust someone and to really open up to them, I am a physically needy person but not as needy emotionally, etc. I usually am the one asking questions getting to know them while giving little information of myself. I've even wondered if I have a sorta victim mentality or something else and thats why I attract or go after these people that play games with my heart. One issue I have had is being bisexual. It's been more of a problem with women than it has been with men. But I've viewed that more as their own insecurity than any issue with me.
Anyone have any advice for me to look at myself and pinpoint my dating issues, and what I can do to be able to read people better or be better at choosing?