u/froggiexhelp

Hello everyone

I'm 19 y/o and I'm planing to go to New Zealand to be an Au Pair for the first time in October of this year. On thursday I will have my first ever interview with one family.

I do have a slight issue and I dont know how to mention it, because I'm scared it will be a deal breaker, I also havent mentioned it on my profile as I didnt want it to look bad...

I tend to be quiet a picky eater... I have a lot that I like, but also a lot that I dislike. Most of my issue most of the time is not the taste of food, but the texture. If I dont like the taste or texture I tend to gag and it makes me want to vomit. I absolutely cant eat vegetables, because sadly they all make me gag... now as for fruit, I eat quite a lot, but even then I cant eat some for example: I absolutely love things that are Strawberry flavour but I cant eat strawberries because of the texture. I also have no clue why I'm like this, if I could change it I would.

Because of this I also tend to be scared to eat certain foods or try certain foods... I also dont eat a lot, I usually only eat a childrens portion or 3/4 of an adults portion depending on what food it is.

The only 2 types of food I really cannot stomach are vegetables and seafood (except tuna).

I really dont know how or when I should mention it, I know I have to mention it before I go but I find it awkward to bring it up.

Do you know when or how I should bring it up on thursday? I dont want to mess this up as on their family profile they seem so lovely and we have quite a lot in common...

Hi everyone

Ever since I was little, I have loved to read books and used to read a minimum of 2 books a week. When I was roughly 14 y/o, I was really depressed and stopped doing almost everything I used to like doing. Ever since I turned 18 y/o last year, I’ve been trying to get into reading again, but there’s one issue, I can’t focus. My mind wanders all the time.

I’ve tried ambient music, white noise, instrumental music, ughhh YOU NAME IT. My mind just tries to focus on and think about other things. I also don’t think my phone is the issue. I never reach for it when I’m doing something unless someone texts or calls me. I only get notifications when my family or best friend text or call (everyone else and every app is on DND)

I can focus when I listen to an audiobook and read at the same time, but I want to be able to focus without an audiobook because most books either don’t have an English audiobook available on Spotify or in my library, or they don’t have one at all.

I also really enjoy the books I’m reading. I love the genre, the story, the plot, etc., but my mind still wanders. Funny enough, when it comes to manga, manhua, manhwa, or fanfiction, my mind doesn’t wander at all, which I think is quite strange.

I also still struggle quite a lot with motivation. I often lack motivation even for stuff I want to do, and I lose motivation quite fast. I’m a procrastinator sadly :(

Do you guys have any tips or recommendations on what I should do to help me focus, stop my mind from wandering, and gain back motivation?