u/fluffywooly

Plan A was to abstain all of cycle 0 which was only ~5 months with our first, but our 2nd is now 8 months old and we're still in cycle 0. We used and loved Marquette for 2 yrs but stopped due to increasing costs.

We learned sensiplan, but we didn't plan on using it starting cycle 0. The postpartum protocol in the guidebook mentions breastfeeding, so is it a no-go for us? (We combo feed and started solids 4 months ago) Thoughts/recommendations?

Edit to ask: I assume Cycle 1 postpartum resumes regular protocol?

Baby turned 8 months a few days ago which means we've officially abstained 8 months. We have 2 beautiful children, both of whom came to be due to NFP fails. We're VERY strapped economically and trying to avoid another pregnancy for now, and decided to abstain all of cycle 0. Turns out I'm STILL on cycle 0. We abstained on birthdays, all winter, our 10th dating anniversary, our 4th wedding anniversary. We have wanted to be intimate on countless occasions but abstained. It has brought me to tears many times. Please call me unreasonable. It's just that... we abstained 6 YEARS while dating, just to also abstain this long while married. All the other moms I know brag about how they "couldn't wait" to be cleared by their OBs to have relations at 6 weeks postpartum, and here we are. 8 months in. Desiring each other, but still waiting. And the worst part is we want more children, many of them. I saw a pair of ducks mating yesterday and genuinely started crying. Even the wild animals are less worries and more free to have sex than we, a married couple, are. Sorry this turned ranty. I don't even know why I'm making this uncomfortable TMI post. I'm just so heartbroken and have no one in my life who wouldn't scoff at our situation (just use a condom, blah blah blah)... I'm aware it's not healthy for our marriage and may even be veering into sin. We're lucky the flame hasn't died. I don't know what else to even do or think.