u/florida210

Hi all!

My LO is about to be 3.5 months soon. I have been so blessed to be able to stay at home with her for 4 months total. I thought this would be plenty of time to get a good sleep schedule and get back into a routine (for myself).

She has a solid bedtime (7:30p at the latest) and wake up routine (7am) but recently has started waking up every 3 hours at night to eat - we had been at a point up till now where she was going 4-5 hours.

Even before this though I was constantly exhausted. I have had a lot of guilt that my husband is at work while I can, on occasion, nap throughout the day with her so I usually end up taking the night shifts and maybe once a week or so he does a night with her or we split. I’ll note, he always offers cause he’s amazing but I just feel bad.

Kinda got to a breaking point yesterday and realized I barely take care of myself. I never consume enough water and I eat maybe one meal during the day because I am so focused on her. She is a very colic-y/fussy baby on a good day. I am exhausted 24/7 and have zero energy to get out of the house or go to the gym unless it’s the weekend and I relax knowing my husband will be with me when we leave the house and I don’t have to be so fixated on her.

Anyone have a good system with their spouse for sleep or with just taking care of yourself? I feel so burnt out and I’m getting anxious about going back to work… there’s no way I’ll be functioning at this rate cause I barely am now. I see friends with multiple kids and I’m just like “HOW are people doing it?!”

Thanks for listening.

Hi all,

I am pretty sure I am going to decide to resign after having my baby. I am using 12 weeks PPL and 4 weeks FMLA (per the union we have an additional four weeks of unpaid leave after birth of a child).

My question is, while taking that additional four weeks of FMLA, do I need to give a two week notice? What happens if I do so? My supervisor has already told me to just let them know if I plan not to come back once I’m on leave. My plan was to use FMLA until August 25th and let my supervisor know by the weekend (22-23) if I decide to resign, or let them know on August 10 if I need to give two weeks. Will I still get the additional 31 days of health insurance at no cost after I leave since I will be coming of an FMLA status?

This is not a sure thing yet, will depend on if I have an additional job offer by then, but just wondering what the protocol is for this.

PS: I am aware that I owe back whatever the VA has paid for me in FEHB for those 12 weeks if I don’t return and give my 12 week work obligation.

Thank you in advance!