u/flockmann

I’m in a really confusing situation with a woman I care deeply about, and I don’t know how to handle it.

She’s currently struggling a lot mentally. She feels down most days, has very low energy, and recently told me she’s afraid she might never feel truly happy again. At the same time, she says she can’t clearly understand or access her feelings – especially when it comes to me and our relationship.

That’s where I’m stuck. Sometimes she seems close, sometimes distant. She doesn’t really reject me, but she also can’t say what she feels or what she wants. And I honestly don’t know how to interpret that.

I keep asking myself: is this her depression speaking? Is she emotionally blocked because of what she’s going through? Or is this actually how she feels about me, and I’m just hoping it’s something else?

It’s really hard for me because I care about her and want to support her, but at the same time I feel insecure and stuck in uncertainty. I don’t know if I should give her space, stay present, or start letting go.

Has anyone been in a similar situation – either personally or from the other side? How do you tell the difference between depression affecting someone’s feelings and genuine lack of romantic interest?

Any advice would really help.