Husband 33M and best friend 32F spring polyamory pitch on me 34F last night
Someone said I should repost this here-
I feel like such a cliche.
After a great day hanging out together, I spent about 2 hours putting our (husband and I) 2 year old down for bed.
Came down to join in the "wine and music video" party when she told me she loves him and me romantically, and wants to be in a relationship with us.
They asked me what I think- I said I don't know what to think, and mentioned some of my fears, but did not shut it down fully. why did they ask just me? Because they already briefly discussed this last weekend and "wanted to talk to me together".
I'm a people pleaser and felt so cornered, I gave non committal answers that I now have to walk back.
I'm not sexually attracted to her. Hell, I'm demi and only have eyes for one person. I'm not interested in being the side chick in my marriage, being the mom and taking care of everything, while they go off and have fun.
We sort of tried this several years back- mostly just sex- and it was not sustainable.
I'm okay with my husband having "side quests" but our agreement has always been that I know about it but it's not someone I know personally/no friends.
I already talked to him about this, now I have to do a video call to clarify with her T\_T
I know I'm such a weenie and I should have shut it down last night... They were just both so happy and excited, and she was ecstatic to be getting this off her chest (that she's been in love with him for like 5 years and fell in love with me when I had my daughter).
I simultaneously feel like they did nothing wrong and feel so betrayed.