u/figuringoutfibro

Today I’m having a very bad chronic illness day. And today is apparently special day for praying the rosary. My mom said she wants the family (my mom and dad and me) to pray a rosary together later. That’s minimum 65 prayers and I’m sure she will want to add in some special extras.

I don’t want to. At all. Nor do I have the energy or stamina. And if I give in it just opens the door for her to keep doing this shit. But if I stay firm on boundaries it will upset her and trigger her into a BPD episode.

How do I get out of this gently and peacefully????

The easiest solution would be saying my medical issues are too exacerbated to join in but that doesn’t keep my boundaries, though it does keep the peace.

For context I am visiting my parents out of our home state and I’m here for another week with them without the ability to leave so I really don’t want to trigger an episode in her.

Some fun crazy background info: My mom is super religious. I was raised strict conservative catholic. Like if you miss a Sunday of church you’re going to hell strict. I’m now separated from the church and follow a path of spirituality and enlightenment. I don’t practice catholic religion. Sometimes on special days like Mother’s Day I go to church with my mom, for her. But it’s really hard for me due to autism and chronic illness and of course not practicing the faith anymore. My mom tries to shove religion down my throat constantly. Frequently gifts me religious gifts like rosary beads, prayer cards, bracelets with religious emblems etc. I don’t like it. She doesn’t ever respect my boundaries because she believes I’m living in sin by not being a practicing catholic and that she needs to fix it. She even emailed Catholic tv network recently that she’s concerned if I die young I’ll go straight to hell because my partner and I aren’t married and are intimate and have lived together for years.

No hate to anyone who practices religion, at all. My religious beliefs just now simply differ from my mom’s and I am no longer a practicing Catholic. I respect all religions and beliefs, I just wish my mom did too 😅

Thank you in advance ❤️

Hi all - I’m not sure how to navigate this. I let my professor know I’d be utilizing my accommodations for Module 1 (+5 extra days for assignments) and this was the response I received. I was specifically told by OAC that instructors are not supposed to do this and to reach out to prof and OAC if this happens.

It’s only the beginning of the semester and I don’t want to give the prof any reason to dislike me or think I’m a problem student. I don’t want to do anything to risk my GPA I’ve worked so hard for. I’m also very autistic with severe anxiety and communication is super difficult for me.

I don’t really personally have an issue with the zero placeholder grade but it’s against OAC policy.

How would you respond?

ETA: OAC specifically told me profs should not enter zero placeholder grades. I received a notice from OAC with “tips” for students and it includes this statement:

“Please know work submitted by the approved accommodation deadline is not late. Instructors need to wait to
enter zeros until the applicable deadline has passed. Once your assignment has been submitted, please allow
up to seven days for the instructor to go back and grade the assignment accordingly.”

Gentle Advice Needed. Religious BPD Mom wants to force prayer

How would you respond? (I have accommodations)