u/fierce-and-wonderful

I thought I'd post here as some of you may relate.
Husband and I have been on a fertility journey for 1.5 years and I've been increasingly fed up with the lack of positive results in the last few months.

At the same time, I've been working hard to build growth for my business this year and I'm in a better position than last year. I had booked 2 industry events for networking in the next few weeks.

I'm now trying to decide whether to go ahead with IVF this cycle, with egg retrieval falling around the dates of the events, meaning I'll be bloated. So I'm not sure I'll be able to confidently introduce myself / sell my services to prospects. Plus I'm worried about bias from men at the events if I look as if I were pregnant (tech industry).

I'm torn because I want both: a chance at a healthy pregnancy, and fulfilling and paying work. Is that too much to ask? Not for men!
If you had to pick between focusing on business vs family, how did you make that decision?

I thought I'd post here in case some of you can relate.
We've been on the "journey" for 1.5 years, we've had 2 IUIs and deciding on a 3rd IUI vs going straight to IVF.
I am self-employed and last year was rocky, so I've been trying hard to build growth for my business this year. I had booked 2 industry events, which I'm hoping will help with networking and potential deals down the line.
If we go ahead with IVF this cycle, egg retrieval will be the day after the first event, and I worry I'll be too much like a balloon to be on my feet for 8 hours and confidently introduce myself/sell my services.
Event 2 will be 10 days after, possibly I'll be an even bigger balloon if I get OHSS (doctor said it's likely due to PCOS).
I'm torn because I want both: a chance at a healthy pregnancy, and fulfilling and paying work. Is that too much to ask? Not for men!

On the one hand, I've already skipped an event I had planned for March when we got the chance to do our 1st IUI, thinking I don't want to delay it for one more month. And here we are still trying 2 months later. And it could take multiple more months / years, so I don't want to continue blocking my business growth in the hopes this is our month.
On the other hand, doing another IUI feels like flogging a dead horse.
If you had to decide between career advancement and growing your family, how did you make that decision?