I’m a woman using FEELD in a large US city and the men are fucked. On any given day, I’m getting 5-10 nonconsensual sexts from men on this app. And it’s especially tiresome because these nonconsensual sexts are not interested in what I want; it’s just men putting their horny before mine. So I put a disclaimer in my bio saying not to send me anything sexual until after we meet, and I’ll use my words and tell you when you can say sexual things to me. I mean, it’s more words than that, but that’s the gist.
So then I match with this man who’s “in the community,” we exchange a few texts, I suggest we talk on the phone AND… even having read my boundary in my bio, he immediately brings up phone sex, says he was sexting with two women the night before, it got him so horny, and he loves hearing the sound of someone cum. WHAT!!!
In 2026, year of Rape Academy, Epstein Island, and Eric Swalwell, for a man to hear a woman’s EXPLICIT BOUNDARY and then CROSS IT is so fucked.
Also, these “in the community” bros who can’t operate with consent are shit.
Women, how are you holding boundaries on FEELD or with men?