u/exhaustedtryhard

I’m really struggling right now and just need to get this out. Since I started dating my boyfriend, my OCD has been really tough. It’s not his fault at all. I know that when new experiences happen, my anxiety ramps up. But now I’m so afraid that my body is rejecting him. I’ve had a lot of UTIs, and now sex is starting to hurt, and I also caught a cold.

I want to be clear that I do not reject intimacy at all. I crave it. I love being close to him and I want him all the time. That’s what makes this so confusing and scary for me. I keep seeing posts that link “your body rejecting someone” to being in a bad or abusive relationship, and that is not us at all. He is genuinely the sweetest person and I love him so much. I want a future with him, and I’ll work on all my shortcomings to get that.

I’m just so tired of this cycle because deep down I know I don’t feel that way. If I truly felt like something was wrong, I feel like I would just know instead of constantly overthinking and going in circles. But my OCD makes everything feel extreme and black and white.

A lot of relationship content and TikToks really trigger me and I think that’s what’s happening right now. I just wanted to ask if anyone else has experienced something like this, because I feel really alone in it and I don’t want my OCD to end up affecting something that actually means so much to me.

Hi everyone, I’m looking for some advice. I have a newer boyfriend and our sex life is good, respectful, and communicative.

Since becoming more sexually active, I’ve had about three UTIs that were treated. Recently, I’ve started getting a sharp pain during sex, especially with reinsertion after changing positions. It feels like it’s right at the vaginal opening, almost like a cut or tear. He even mentioned it might be something like that.

It doesn’t hurt internally when I pee, but the area at the opening feels irritated when I do, and the pain can linger after sex.

I’ve also been bleeding for about two weeks now. I thought it was my period at first, but that’s not normal for me.

We use lube and go slow, so I’m not sure what’s causing this. I do plan to see a gynecologist, but wanted to ask if anyone has experienced something similar. It’s a bit embarrassing to talk about with my mom, so I figured I’d ask here first.