Bromos, I need help
Hi hello hey everybody. So I’m kind of in crisis mode and I need a little introspection from outside my immediate circle.
I lost my husband about 9 months ago to a terminal illness. He had 3 children by three different moms, but for the sake of the story, we’re focusing on the younger two 10F and 6M.
10F was the light of my husbands world. She was a daddy’s girl and this has been absolutely devastating for her. Her mom and I continue to have a decent relationship after the fact.
6M was conceived when my husband was getting sober from a drug problem and he was taken advantage of while he was incapacitated. I know, he obviously should have done a DNA test from the start, but this was before I came into the picture so I honestly didn’t know how up in the air it was.
BM of 6M has always been spiteful towards me, and it’s caused rifts in a lot of relationships. She used the kid as a means of control. The only way my father in law got to see the baby was because he babysat for her for free and bought her anything she needed. He gave her a car even.
Anyway, I digress. So my husband has been gone for 9 months and I’ve continued a relationship with 10F but obviously 6M BM wasn’t having any of it and I haven’t seen him.
My mother in law has always been doubtful about 6M, and yeah, she did a DNA test between her and 6M and what do you know? Comes back they are not related.
I’m pissed off that that lady took so much of our lives and made his such a hell for basically nothing. But what I’m most worried about now is 10F. My MIL said she wasn’t going to say anything but she was cutting him out of her will and stating the reason why. And she’s 75, so it’s not out of the realm of possibility it’s not gonna be a long time.
So basically, I wanna reach out with the knowledge to 10F BM so she can figure out how she wants to tell her. The information is gonna come out eventually, and I don’t want either one of them to be blindsided by this. But like, is it my place to even reach out and say anything? Should I mind my business and let things play out as they will? I just can’t stand the thought of 10F losing her dad and her brother.
Sorry for the extremely long and slightly ranting post. I’ve just been so lost anyway that this has basically knocked me sideways and I can’t seem to find my footing again.