i’m tired of the “quirky” way white people insert themselves into our conversations.
we could be having a discussion amongst ourselves about some aspect of our culture and here comes a white person saying some variation of:
“i’m whiter than ____ but…”
“i’m white af and i…”
“i’m ghostly white…”
like girl stop. idc how pale you are. idk if that’s their form of self deprecating humor like “omg i’m so white isn’t that pathetic” or “please allow a little tiny white girl like me to speak” but it’s annoying. you’re a grown ass adult. ideally you wouldn’t be entering this black conversation at all if you have nothing to contribute but since you wanna be involved in the discussion so bad, just say “i’m white, i have a question” and move along.
idk why specifically this bothers me and maybe y’all can provide insight but i just wanna know who relates to this. it feels really similar to “i’m just a girl uwu”. like am i supposed to be less irritated that you’re in a black space because you’re making yourself look quirky and small? if you’re gonna be in our business and ask us a question then SPEAK UP. none of this “i’m so super duper white omg” foolishness.
plus it gives the vibe that they’re conflating their skin tone with their knowledge of black culture. like “i’m ghostly white so idk about any of this” as if skin tone dictates lived experience. a tanned white person isn’t any closer to us than a pale white person. idk why you’re telling me how pale you are. just say you’re white and don’t understand.