u/doughhnutts

Pata hai aaj kya hua

So turns out my so-called best friend was lowkey narcissistic the whole time lol.

We were friends for 4 years, and at first everything was fine. But over time I started noticing changes, not normal “people grow apart” changes, but the kind where someone slowly becomes rude, egoistic, and only surrounds themselves with people who agree with everything she says.

And mind you, we are both fully grown adults 😭 not teenagers doing random drama.

She made a new friend group, which honestly I was happy about. But I noticed those friends would just support everything she did instead of calling her out when she was wrong. Like real friends do tell you when you are messing up, right?

At one point she was basically seeing two guys at the same time, and I told her straight up that I did not support it because nobody deserves to feel like a backup option. She definitely did not like hearing that. After that she slowly distanced herself and eventually blocked me. I was hurt, but I let it go.

Also, while we were still friends, she quietly created a second account and started adding new people there but not me. She eventually stopped using the account we used to talk on. That second account felt like her “classy fake version” only for certain people, while I was completely left out of it without even being told. And honestly, I have known the realest version of her, like the actual her, not that filtered version she shows to others.

Then months later she suddenly came back trying to patch things up. And honestly it felt like she only came back because karma hit her back. The guy she liked ended up doing the exact same thing to her.

The worst part is she did not reconnect because she genuinely missed me. It felt more like she needed someone to emotionally dump on. Imagine not speaking to someone for almost a year, then calling to “fix” the friendship only to unload all your problems and disappear again right after.

That friendship genuinely messed with my ability to trust people or get close to new friends. We used to be inseparable, and now we are complete strangers.

Friendship breakups really hit harder than people expect. You do not just lose a person, you lose the version of yourself that existed with them.

Okay this is for the girlies…

So I’m 24F and have never been in a physical relationship before. But if I ever decide to be with a guy, how do I stay safe using just protection?

I can’t use an IUD or most birth control methods, and even emergency pills really mess with my cycle. So now I’m wondering if I should just invest in toys instead because I definitely don’t want pregnancy stress right now 😭

I’m completely new to all of this, so I’d really appreciate kind, judgment-free advice from women who rely only on condoms or know safer non-hormonal options that don’t affect periods.

I’ve been on Bookstagram for almost 5–6 years now, and honestly, it has changed so much. Back then, it genuinely felt like a space for books, honest reviews, discussions, and readers simply sharing their love for reading.

The same goes for ARCs too. Recently, it feels like ARC reviews have become more about getting free goodies or staying on an author’s good side rather than giving genuine opinions. That’s honestly why I mostly rely on Goodreads reviews now, so many of them feel raw, honest, and real.

I slowly stepped back from Bookstagram for many reasons and just continued reading reviews on Goodreads instead. Sometimes I really miss what the community used to feel like.

What about you? Do you feel like Bookstagram has changed too?

Okay, so what I’ve recently noticed is that new writers/readers are literally reading just smut and smut with no plot. Like hello?? We used to joke and say “I read sm*t,” but at this point it actually is just that.

And then there are so many stories encouraging chEating too. Like what the f*ck?? “He/she won’t stop themselves even if there’s a ring on their finger” type shIt. And people are actually voting for it and asking for more chapters???

And don’t even get me started on those “top ten” trending books. What the hell is that?!?! Half the lists are just the same toxic, zero-plot sm*t stories recycled over and over again.

I genuinely feel bad for good writers who put so much effort into creating actual stories with depth, emotions, and plot, only for all the attention to go elsewhere.

Thanks for listening to my rant.

Let me know your thoughts!!