u/doing_too_much39

I night weaned my 18 month old toddler over the past week and it’s gone really well. She was waking to nurse every 2+ hours and it was really taking a toll on me. We did Nursies when the sun shines and there was some crying but overall it was ok. She ended up getting sick a few days after we started doing it but it ended up working out better because she had a terrible cough and would puke if she had a full belly of milk but did much better keeping fluids down with sips of water. It really wasn’t bad so I was thinking she was ready. She actually accepted earlier in the night denials with minimal fuss and only cried at about 4am for the first few nights, after which she woke hourly to ask for milk but didn’t put up a fight when I said milk was sleeping. Last 3 nights she slept pretty much through the night. She starts the night in her crib in our room then comes Into bed after first wake, but since we stopped nursing she just goes right back to sleep in my arms and sleeps till morning.

Now I’m feeling really guilty like I pushed her too soon. I saw things about the global age of night weaning being much older like between 2-5 and I’m feeling like I am depriving her of comfort too soon. We are sleeping better but at what cost? It feels like we can’t win.

Seeking reassurance!!! The sleep deprivation was getting really bad and I developed an intense night nursing aversion to the point where it wasn’t even hard to deny her. I felt like I was losing my mind. And some of it is because I have to work and I was really struggling with work and my health and maintaining the night nursing to that degree. But now I’m feeling really guilty that I prioritized my own needs over her comfort and security when she’s already going through a tough time with developmental separation anxiety. Did I push my baby before she was ready?

Was on humira for a long time with good control. Insurance made me switch to a biosimilar and I immediately flared and developed antibodies. Upped to weakly dosing and imuran to try to salvage. I also take the biologic for ankylosing spondylitis and while my UC is mostly ok my AS is flaring and my body is on fiiiiiiire and often that means my gut isn’t far behind 🙃 so docs want me to switch to infliximab.

I’m nervous because it’s an infusion. It seems time consuming and frustrating to be tied to an infusion center for appointments. Curious about others experiences with it and what it’s like!!! I just have no idea what to expect and I feel like my life is already way overbooked with appointments.

We have been gradually preparing to night wean and last night was the first big no milk at all night weaning night for my 18 month old. She did great, just one big upset moment really. Then today… she’s sick with a fever and an upset stomach. But eating and drinking ok and she just threw up once. Do we charge ahead? See how it goes? I hate to not give her that comfort when she’s sick but it feels like there’s never a good time. If there was concern for dehydration I wouldn’t go forward but as it stands she seems just sick with a typical daycare virus.

Anyone experience this?