u/diamondeyes7

I've been working from home since COVID, and moved to a new city two years ago. The past two years have also been really hard due to some personal loss and health stuff. Especially in the past 1.5 years, I've found that it's extremely hard to leave my apartment after the workday ends, to go to a workout class or events to socialize. During the day I take breaks to go the gym and walk outside.

I have a designated work space, but by mid-afternoon I feel the pull to move my laptop from my desk to the couch, and once I do that, I will always lose the motivation to go to whatever class or event I signed up for, and won't end up going. I just melt into taking a shower, changing into lounge clothes, and watching TV.

Do you also have any daytime hacks that make it easier to leave your home after workday Monday - Thursday? Like do you wear special clothes and shoes? How do you make sure to stay off your couch or whatever?

I really want to hear from people who have felt truly isolated and how you rebuilt the "muscle" of leaving your home on the weekdays.

(I really only want to hear from women who have been in this situation, and describe themselves as isolated.)

I moved to a new city two years ago, and when I first moved here I went out and socialized after work. I didn't click with anyone, but was still able to go out after work. Then the rest of the two years has consisted of: losing two dogs with a year, getting laid off (which I just got an offer for a new job), going on anti-depressants and spending over a year trying to get the dosage right.

So what will happen is during the weekdays, I'll go out to the gym and take a walk outside. But even if I try to make plans to go to a gym class or event after "work", and ultimately I'll chicken out and decide just to take a shower, eat dinner, and watch TV. Last week I signed up for a dinner with Timeleft (dinner with a group of strangers). But then I took at nap that afternoon and decided not to go. This week I signed up for a pickleball meetup around 630, and then Timeleft another night at 7. I want to go, but knowing me I'll ditch last minute.

I want to meet people, but then every fucking time I'll chicken out and in that moment will be like, "I just want to stay in".

Those who live alone (and don't have many/any friends), how do you maintain enough motivation to leave your apartment/home after work on the weekdays?

For women who are or have been isolated, AND work from home and live alone, how are you motivated to leave your home after work and socialize with people or go places on weekdays?