Nobody talks about the cons of passing as a man
I live in a very progressive, liberal neighborhood. There are gay and trans people, everywhere here. There's not a day I've gone out without seeing another trans person. That's great! However, I guess I pass very well... My room mate is a direct opposite with his expression. He's very fruity. Colored hair, twink, pale, high voice, fem/androgynous clothing taste, very early into his transition. No problem with that, at all. But when we're together, all of the trans people we encounter will ONLY acknowledge and interact with him.
The other day there was a woman with a beautiful outfit on, so I said "Oh my goodness, your outfit is so cool!" and she goes "Oh, uh.... thanks?" and then, my room mate in agreement, said "I agree, it's so cute!" and her tone changed, immediately. She said "OMG Thank you so much!" and then proceeded to have an entire conversation with him, facing herself away from me even. It really breaks my heart a bit to be alienated on several occasions. I face this problem as well in cis spaces at times, just less frequently. I'm starting to feel like there's something wrong with me.