Supporting an unsupportive parent
Hello, I have a question about the journey of acceptance (or non acceptance) for some parents.
I came out to my mother this wednesday. I have feared it on and off for six years. I thought that as long as I can avoid telling her I can believe that she loves me. I also physically could not tell her, I could not make the words leave my mouth. I wrote her a letter, since then she has not spoken to me. She cries, she avoids me, she does not even look at me. She only talks to my dad, she says her daughter no longer exists.
I find it strange. I am not dead. I am the exact same person I was a week ago. I am who l always have been, only now she knows it. I do not understand why she can not see me when I am standing here fully alive. I do not know what to say to make her hear me. For now I have only stayed silent.
This is affecting the rest of the family too. I can live without my family, I can erase my past within it. But I never meant it to affect the rest of the family. There is a tension and decadence and I hate to be its cause.
So now I wonder, if you struggled to see your child after they came out, what changed you? What can I do or say to change this?