u/cunningstrobe

Happens or happened to you that you despite being drained still need stimulation? Say for example after a good social event, you feel excitable and crave even more stimulation:more socialization, sex, stimulant drinks, walks, sleepless nights. As I said this becones a struggle when you need that but don't have enough energy. It's a pain in the ass. I hope you older enfjs or more mature Se users can reassure me it's just a stage. I want to be more Judging in my stimulation too. For example, now I'm feeling good for two hours, from now on I'll focus on falling asleep for 8 hours.

How do you find it makes you differ socially from the typical enfj?

That's not to brag, but if we don't have charm, then who does? So I'll get quickly to the point. INFJ's are the ones who seem to be reluctant to open up to me so much so that they may avoid eye contact. I get the feeling they feel exposed by my strong focus on a single person at the time(say at a party). Comparatively I had a much easier time having INTJ's opening up to me. What's your experience when it comes to types that you don't seem to click with right away?

Was anybody's experience the same? I as an enfj am thought of as an introvert generally, but it seems like many people I come in contact with consider me rather quickly their friend. Not in the way of an actual introvert who only opens up to them, but I'm very focused on warm one-on-one conversations and a great listener not being afraid to talk about his experiences in exchange.