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Does anyone else feel like not having a “village” nearby really impacts how you parent?

It’s just my husband and me. We both work full time, (I also travel a lot for work), we’re dealing with secondary infertility, and we’re in the thick of the 3 year old phase… which is no joke. Our son has been struggling with listening, pushing boundaries, and just generally being very strong-willed. We *obviously* love him more than anything, but we are so exhausted.

We don’t have family nearby or regular help. The only real break we get is one night a month when daycare does a “parents night out” for a few hours. Outside of that, it’s constant. We’re always “on,” always dividing and conquering, or all together as a family.

And I feel like it’s affecting how we parent. We’re more short than we want to be. We don’t have the patience we wish we did. Everything feels harder because there’s no reset time.

I see people who have grandparents nearby or built-in help and I honestly wonder how different this would feel.

Is anyone else in this situation? How are you coping? Does it get easier, or do you just adapt?

Hi everyone 🤍 TW: living child

I’ve been lurking for a while and finally feel like I need to post because I’m spiraling a bit after getting my AMH results back this morning.

I’m 38 (turning 39 in August). We have one LC conceived naturally in 2022, born in 2023 when I was 35. We got pregnant the second month trying and had a completely normal, healthy pregnancy.

Fast forward to trying for baby #2:

- May 2025: conceived first try → miscarriage at 8 weeks

- September 2025: conceived again → chemical pregnancy

- December 2025: conceived again → miscarriage at 8 weeks

It was a horrible 7 months and it’s going to be a rough 2026 with many reminders of what could’ve been. So, I have no issues getting pregnant, which I know is a huge blessing, but clearly something isn’t working.

We tested the most recent MC and it came back as a trisomy. Based on that and my age, my doctor suspects the others were likely chromosomal as well, even though we couldn’t test them.

We’ve decided to move forward with IVF + PGT-A to (hopefully) avoid another miscarriage. BUT… I just got my AMH back and it’s 0.387 and I feel completely gutted.

I have a saline sono and HSG scheduled this week, but now I’m spiraling wondering:

- Will IVF even work for me with AMH this low?

- Am I likely looking at multiple retrievals just to get one euploid?

- Has anyone had success in a similar situation (low AMH + recurrent miscarriage due to suspected chromosomal issues)?

What’s confusing me the most is how I can get pregnant so easily, but have such low AMH. I thought those things would correlate more?

I’m just feeling really scared. The thought of going through IVF and still not getting a viable embryo is terrifying… but so is getting pregnant again naturally and risking another loss.

If anyone has been in a similar spot, I would really appreciate hearing your experience, outcomes, or even just reassurance. And honestly, if you didn’t have success I want to hear those stories too. Shoot it to me straight. I hate that we’re all here but I’m hopeful and grateful for science.