It is rather fucked up your self worth is connected to how many people find you attractive
After having going through a sulking session on how no one find me attractive one day, I realised hey it is rather fucked up, isn't it? That my entire self worth is dependent on someone else's opinion on me how much they can find me fuckable. I actually sit through this and thought how much the idea of that if no one find you romantically or straight up attractive in any manner, it can ruin your confidence. Why does the idea of someone finding out how much my outer flesh is worth it to notice is crazy!!!
I know humanity are social animals and being not able to find connection is actually good reason to be sad but being aroace and cutting romantic and sexual attraction and looking it from outside it is rather messed up. It is like, hey wait a minute, in healthy friendships looks sometimes barely matter there in fact rather look down upon if you are choosing friends in the basis of how one is good looking. But in terms of romantic and sexual attraction, it is acceptable and even a stepping stone. And if you don't have that stepping stone, good fucking luck.
And it mess everyone regardless of gender and sexuality.
Like hello???